I kept looking at self help books for confirmation of all the things my husband was doing wrong in our marriage, but reading this book helped me see how much my own insecurities and defensiveness were contributing to our problems. It helped me make changes in my attitude toward him, which in turn prompted him to be more loving. The title really says it all. If you want to improve the dynamic in your marriage without dictating your partner’s behavior and possibly hurting them with those requests (been there many times!), this is a wonderful read.

Very informative

It is really an amazing book. Read it and improve your relationship today!!

I wish I had found this book, years ago, understanding my wife's fears and to actually see where she is coming from, and understanding why I feel the way I do and react the way I do. This book has changed the outlook of my life, I hope to share this with my wife, hopefully change our current situation. Again wish I had found this before I devastated our lives by leaving, thinking this was the only option left. Thanks Aaron D.

My wife and I read this together, apart. I am deployed. Excellent resource! I will read it again.